Personal essays

Names, ambition, growing up, Lagos, food, and everything beyond the terminal.

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2026

musings / 28 Jul 2026 / 5 min The arithmetic of proving it The part everyone leaves out of the story: what it costs, in money, to keep proving yourself to someone, and why the humiliation is never the amount.
musings / 24 Jul 2026 / 5 min Do not disturb is not about you A ringing phone is a synchronous interrupt with no agenda and no end time. Why mine has been silent for years, why caring about you makes it worse rather than better, and what that has cost.
musings / 24 Jul 2026 / 6 min Nobody tells you that growing up is mostly rewriting the future We build futures in our heads without noticing, and then life edits them. On losing a future that had already started to feel like a memory.
musings / 22 Jul 2026 / 4 min Almost 25, and apparently I should know what I am doing On the peculiar expectations of the mid-twenties, and the discovery that confidence and clarity are not the same thing.
musings / 05 Jul 2026 / 4 min The people who make our ambition possible We tell stories about solitary ambition. Almost nobody builds anything alone, and the ones holding you up rarely appear in the telling.
musings / 21 Jun 2026 / 4 min Why some endings do not need a villain Anger gives an ending a clean explanation. Incompatibility does not. On the harder kind of goodbye, the one with nobody to blame.
musings / 08 Mar 2026 / 4 min The correct way to eat suya Suya is not a meal, it is an event with meat in it. Eight rules, held with more conviction than any technical opinion I have.
musings / 25 Jan 2026 / 4 min Traffic is a personality test Nobody is themselves in a go-slow. Everybody is themselves in a go-slow. A field guide to the people you become when the road stops moving.

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